46. Engineer the Conversation

We may assume that conversations are something warm and fuzzy, amor­phous, soft, and gooey. Sometimes our logical and analytic brain trumps the need to have conversations by driving us to write a process, send an email, construct a procedure, or create a document.

That’s why this idea says “Engineer the Conversation.” There is a method to conversations. Just like any system, if we want a different outcome, change the process, or in this case, change the conversation. There are three essential ele­ments to any conversation: How to IDENTIFY the topic for better clarity and focus, how to EXPLORE the topic for deeper understanding, and ultimately how to create sustainable ACTION. The IdEA© Conversational Model is a pneumonic reminder about how to engineer these three parts of any conversation (Identify, Explore, Act).

Where can I focus to enrich my conversations: Better focus up front? Gaining clarity and understanding? Or creating more accountable actions?